It is looking inside to find your own true voice and gifts and sharing them in pursuit of a better life and a better world.
What swagger is NOT:
It is not arrogance or power over or dominating or being better.
Talking Spirit: Flight of Falcons
How does the son of a famous father find his own path and keep an even keel? For Tony Huston, it was the love of falconry that guided him, while others he knew got into trouble. Tony is an author and actor. He was nominated for an Oscar for his screenplay for “The Dead” a story based on a James Joyce story from The Dubliners. He is the son of director John Huston. Tony says that as he was growing […..]
Veils, Halos, and Shackles – Poetry about women rising up
I’m so excited to let you know that one of my poems is appearing in a new collection called Veils, Halos & Shackles: International Poetry on the Oppression and Empowerment of Women. The book has just been released. I will join nine other New Mexican poets to read their pieces from Veils, Halos & Shackles on Saturday, April 9 at 5 pm at Bookworks, located at 4022 Rio Grande N.W. in Albuquerque. I will be reading my poem “My Pretty Jailer” as it […..]
The Girl’s Guide to Swagger: Growing and Evolving
March is Women’s History Month and at the beginning of the month we celebrated International Women’s Day. All month, you will hear about the accomplishments of women. International Women’s Day was first celebrated in 1911. Five years ago, The Girl’s Guide to Swagger website was launched on International Women’s Day. It was our goal to reach out to girls and women with messages of support and self-acceptance. Since that time, we’ve sponsored workshops, hikes, panels and an art contest. […..]
Talking Spirit: Beautiful Oneness
Are you interested in different theories of spirituality? In Taos, New Mexico Cindy Brown and Carol Terry have started a series of podcasts called Talking Spirit. In each edition, we discuss spiritual exploration and how it impacts our lives. In the first edition, we discussed Carol’s new book Greening the Blues: healing patterns after grief. You can read about the book and hear the podcast here. For our second edition, we spoke with Alicia Hanlen. A licensed practitioner of Science […..]
Revolution – Rising Against Violence
Want to make a statement about violence against women and girls? Join the global event, coming this Sunday, February 14 – One Billion Rising. For the last four years, women and men have joined together around the world to rise against violence as part of One Billion Rising performing flash mobs in public places. Click this link to find out if there is a rising near you.
In swagger at work, we offer an approach to resolve the barriers to self-confidence that women face at work and to offer a third way – different than exhibiting only traditional feminine values or trying to copy men’s values. Through stories of women who swagger and exhibit healthy self-esteem, Swagger at work demonstrates ways to build confidence and invites women to tell their own stories of empowerment.
At work, it’s knowing my stuff cold, a confidence that I can blend with compassion. I certainly don’t spend a lot of time playing getting warmer. I am known for being direct, which I like.
Swagger in sports showcases women who are strong in body and mind. Not necessarily stronger than someone else, just strong in their own body. Having self confidence, loving your body and growing your self esteem by being active, healthy, doing sports, spending time and being confident in the outdoors, and even competing are all ways that we as women learn to swagger in sports.
I didn’t care about marriage and children – because of my childhood. I was fulfilled in career and athletics. I’ve turned emotional trauma into strength – I’ve traveled; I’ve been successful.
Teresa Rider, Age Group World Champion Triathlete
Spirituality and faith are important aspects of who we are as women. Having the self confidence to express ourselves, learning about who we are and what we believe in are all aspects of what make us unique and whole. We’ll share with you how other women have developed their swagger in their spirituality and we hope you will share your stories with us.
I admit that the Bible does not specifically mention Aretha Franklin. But when it comes to thinking about God, most people’s minds are full of all those familiar images and they just get stuck…So why not Aretha? She’s big, she’s bold and you’re going to have to listen to what she’s saying.”
Column by Terry Mattingly
Swagger in school is having the courage and confidence to learn what you want to learn in school and becoming what you want to become. Having the self confidence to find your own way and not letting society or others dictate your path to success. Swagger is trying many different things throughout your journey, being strong in your opinions and open to new ideas.
When asked where she got her swagger, author Joan Borysenko said “For me, it was do or die. My first job was teaching medical students. I had to prevent them from falling asleep. I developed my swagger in a situation of challenge.”
Swagger isn’t about power over others in relationships, it’s about knowing who you are, being strong enough and confident enough in yourself so that you can share yourself and your gifts with others without losing yourself. It’s having the self esteem and self confidence to know that you don’t always have to be right or win in every situation, it’s being strong for others and knowing how to nurture yourself at the same time.
A lot of my friends have swagger – that pushing the edge quality, thinking and living outside the box.
There are many fabulous women who swagger on the world stage. These are strong and confident women who have worked hard to compete in what is often a male-dominated environment. They have defined themselves, their opinions are valued and they have forged their own path to be a part of the world stage. In them, you will see a strong sense of self, confidence in their ideas and actions, and a unique approach to showcasing their high feminine confidence.
What are the risks of swagger? The risks are always visible in our society. Any woman with the least amount of swagger is doomed. Like any Hollywood star, they will build her up, so they can tear her down. Think Hillary Clinton. Katie Couric, Angelina Jolie, Condi Rice. Doesn’t much matter the profession.