How to get swagger: feel your true essence

Do you want more swagger in your life?  Here is tip #3 in our series on How To Get Swagger, this one from Donna Daniell, psychotherapist with Balance your Life and swagger wise woman

How to get swagger?  Stay balanced and feel your full self —-how do you feel that in yourself each day?   What are the tools that you use to feel that true essence of your authentic self?

What are the activities that you do that bring you to your best “swagger”?    I can name some of the ones that work for me:   Walking my dog and breathing in the morning air, my favorite yoga class,  singing, dancing, getting a new client, feeling totally alive after a huge workout or hike or bike ride, feeling emotionally and spiritually connected to someone who really gets you and you get them,  riding my mountain bike — that’s really when I feel swagger.   I teach all about this in my groups…..especially my Innerwork group/community of women.

What do you do that allows you to feel your true essence and find your confidence?  How can you bring more swagger into every day? Have a comment?  Join us on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/GirlsGuideToSwagger.

Want to know more about Donna and her practice with groups and individuals?  Donna says:

I am a specialist in mindfulness-based psychotherapy and coaching. My life’s work has brought me to teaching families, adults, couples and teens how to be present and balanced in themselves and in their relationships with others. My expertise is working with women and families through transitions and the life cycle as well as with difficult parenting challenges. I am a certified IFS therapist and trainer and use this model for inner healing, for trauma & attachment issues individually, with couples, and groups.

To find out if you can benefit from working with Donna, either in person or via Skype, take a look at her website: http://www.findbalanceinyourlife.com/.

Cindy

Girls Don’t Play Football!

 

 

 

 

 

The summer between middle school and high school, my best friend and I  committed to attending a 3-day football clinic for youth. I was  terrified at the thought of being the only girls at the camp, but I  pushed all fears aside and showed up with friend in tow, on a hot July  morning to play football. On the first day of camp, only an hour in, my  best friend hurt her shoulder and I was left on a field full of guys  staring at me awkwardly. My low-self esteem siezed hold of me and I  tried to be invisible to my teammates as the day dragged on. By the end  of the day, I was incredibly embarrassed and had made up my mind not to  return to camp the next day.

I have to be honest and tell you that I have battled with insecurity and  low self-esteem for most of my life. Resentful feelings about my looks,  my personality and my abilities have been the cause of daily anxiety  which I usually tried to mask with a hard exterior. Often my  insecurities would become roadblocks to pursuing a goal and force me to  focus on the negative in my life. Now at the age of 25, I still have a  lot of insecurities. However I am proud to say I am tackling them one by one! I think of low self esteem as something you have to pick at over a long period of time to get to the priceless jewel inside. I am just  beginning to see glimpses of a sparkle within myself and although I do  not claim to be the master of confidence, I’ve learned five key concepts along the way that I’m happy to share: Read more…